Is this fair? Married couples with children....?

your husband is exactly right. he needs his nights out playing with the guys. it helps him on many levels, and as a result will make him a better husband to you, and a better father to the kids. he's also right that you ought to have your own night thing once a week. go join a cl, have a girl's restaurant night, anything. it'll do wonders for you as well as for those you love. you're kids aren't going to start thinking that because mommy has one night off, daddy has another night off, they don't love us anymore. sometimes kids need breaks from their parents! besides, it gives them a chance to have only one parent for a night. there's a lot of bonding that can occur with a parent individually that doesn't always happens when both parents are all around. all your kids will learn from your nights out is that you are just as important to yourself as they are important to you. it's called giving them a prime example of how to live a fulfilling and balanced life. go ahead and take up the offer! i bet you will not regret it in the slightest.